I’ve been watching a lot of Tom Bilyeu and Impact Theory lately. I recently watched one of his talks at Mindvalley and the line below really speaks to me:

“It doesn’t matter who you are today. The only thing that matters is who you want to become and the price you are willing to pay to get there.”

He mentions in this talk that humans are the ultimate adaptation machines. And it all starts by making an intentional choice. We must choose to believe in ourselves.

To believe in yourself, we must have self-esteem built on an unshakeable foundation. Often times, our self-esteem is centered around how smart we are, how right we are, how good we are. Unfortunately, these are very fragile traits. Once we meet someone smarter, proven wrong, or fail at something, our self-esteem crumbles.

Instead, Tom Bilyeu states to build your self-esteem around something that is anti-fragile. Something that the more it is attacked, the stronger it becomes. He says the one identity that he has come across that is anti-fragile, is that of a learner.

A learner is someone that takes advantage of all situations. By wanting to learn in all scenarios, a learner finds out where they are most weak and are able to build themselves from that point. They develop their self-esteem around their growth, and not based on what others think of them.

The shift to a learner mindset will also help you confront who you actually are. It’s only when you honestly acknowledge where you are, when change can occur. Because now you can identify your starting point, and the skills you’ll need to cover the gap to where you want to be. Once you know where you want to go, you will have the right intention to start to rebuild yourself.

Dig into yourself. Really question your current values and belief system. Shift your mentality to become a learner. Then make an intentional choice on where you want to be. As you progress, you will find and learn the skills you need to get from here, to your future.